Inevitably, as a mom, you hear a lot of things. Whether in the grocery store or at the zoo, if you have kids, you’re usually more approachable. Ladies come from near and far to adore your little guy or girl, and every now and then, they’ll comment on you as well. This isn’t always a bad thing, but I thought I would share some of the most common things people say to young mama’s and share whether they are true or false!
“Was it an accident?”
Could it have been unplanned? Maybe. But was it an unfortunate event that happened unexpectedly? No. I don’t believe that babies are accidents, ever. Young or old, married or unmarried, every baby that comes to this earth is such a joy and blessing!
“Do you wish you had taken more time to accomplish your goals before kids?”
People usually think of goals as completing college, getting a job, buying a house, a car, and a lot of other things. If you have a child young, and still have goals like these, you can still complete them – it just might take a little longer. Which I believe is okay, because you have the best motivation wrapped up in your child. If you don’t have goals like a college degree or job, I think that’s fine too! One of the best decisions in my life was to quit college. I am a stay-at-home mama now and I am so thankful that I have a minuscule amount of student debt to pay off! Which allows us the ability to save more money each month for a house or car!
“You probably feel like you missed out on your twenties”
I’ve also heard the saying a lot that “your twenties should be for you”. But, in response, I always think of the many lessons I’ve learned as a mom that I wouldn’t have learned as a college student. I wouldn’t have stayed up with a sick child, learning the very definition of unselfishness, without a baby. I wouldn’t have learned the preciousness of each and every moment, without a baby. There is so much more to life than living it up in your twenties and I’m so thankful now that I have a head start in learning those big life lessons.
“Do you feel like you missed out on having time for just you and your spouse before kids?”
I think that, however old you are, and however long you have been married, you’re always going to miss this. Whether you’re having kids at 20 or 40, I think you will always miss that little one bedroom apartment where you began life together. You’re always going to long for more time together, a moment alone, or a date night out as parents. However, you also get to appreciate those moments so much more now that they are few and far between.
Also, there is nothing better than watching a child walk around with bits of you and bits of your spouse in them. It’s really like watching all of your love become something that is so tangible, how amazing??
“Do you wish you had been financially ready before having a baby?”
I always laugh at this one, because I’m pretty sure unless you’re a millionaire, having a baby will always be an expense. Adding cribs, diapers, strollers and car seats to the list can always set you back. But we are grateful for family and friends who gifted us practical things for Liam. In the end though, we have learned how to budget in the important things. We’ve learned to say no to the nicest car on the block, the new iPhones, and things that aren’t a necessity. Yet again, we have learned something valuable that we may not have learned so young if we didn’t have a baby.
“Don’t you love being a mama?”
This is my favorite question of all. I’ve gotten this one a lot from sweet older women at the grocery store. They always get a look in their eyes, as if they’re remembering their littles when they look at mine. They’ll grab his toes or pinch his cheek and say, “Don’t you just love being a mama?”
Yes. Yes, I do.